Published Wednesday, 25 November 2015
While in the midst
of those who are troubled,
to dwell free from feeling troubled
is happiness indeed.Dhammapada 198
To have empathy does not denote merging with the moods of those around us. Putting it another way, abiding with sensitive equanimity while others get upset, doesn't mean we're cold-hearted. It could appear so, which is why it is skilful to remember sensitivity, not just equanimity, when we are with those who are troubled. At the time our companions might want us to join them in their suffering, but in the long run, keeping our head clear and our heart open is the greater gift.